– where affinity groups can be together without the presence of the oppressor – exist: so that tough conversations can be had with fewer guards up, so that you can communicate thousands of ideas in a single collective sigh, so that you can cry together with those who don’t just sympathize, but empathize.And while it’s important to be willing to talk to your partner about race and to feel comfortable bringing it up, it’s just as important to be willing to step back and recognize when your whiteness is intrusive. I’ve been the “But I love you, and you love me, and why can’t you share this with me? Because it’s really difficult to watch your partner hurt and not be let in. Maybe it isn’t appropriate for your partner to take you home to meet their parents.To most people, dating someone of a different race isn’t an issue.However, within some Asian families, interracial relationships are frowned upon and in some instances can lead to families being torn apart.
In the first place, it's important to acknowledge and understand how contrasting customs and cultural backgrounds are likely to impact your marriage and family life.
Normally, this means that interracial or multicultural couples have a unique need to bend, flex, compromise, and accommodate to one another's contrasting ways of looking at life.