Once you’ve hit day 4 all hope dissipates and you must sadly accept the fact that you will never be hearing from him.
However, it wasn’t until I broke the rules that I realized this type of situation can’t be so easily explained, or dismissed.
Before heading home, J and I planned a date for that Thursday.
We exchanged numbers, kissed, said our goodbyes, and I left feeling quite pleased with myself, knowing that I had played my cards right. I wasn’t expecting a call on Monday or Tuesday because of the ‘rules’ and all that, but by Wednesday night I started to feel a little panicked. By 7 pm I had two choices: resign myself to the fact that he isn’t into me, or do something I had never, ever done before- call him. As the phone rang I practiced the message I would leave on his voicemail in my head but was interrupted when, to my astonishment, a very perplexed-sounding J answered the phone.
It goes without saying that Ok Cupid has one of the better reputations of more popular free dating websites for having a wide variety of quality users.
However, Ok Cupid has many not-so-great users as well, and it’s not uncommon for women to have the misfortune of encountering them, and in the past, I have as well.
The idea of him being on his knees surprised as well as amazed me.
The cougar can be anyone from an overly surgically altered wind tunnel victim, to an absolute sad and bloated old horn-meister, to a real hottie or milf.
In total, I received 11 messages with 218 visitors. A few were a little more forward, and two were straight-up aggressive.
Despite Casual Kiss being kind of scammy, with only 3000 monthly visitors, I decided to give it a try all the same – and I wasn’t entirely disappointed.
Experience is the best teacher of all and this particular experience was an eye-opener and game-changer for sure. I met up with a friend one Saturday afternoon at a bar for a football game. He was cute, charming, and we seriously hit it off right away.
Our afternoon of fun turned into a night out and me, my friend, J, and his friend bar-hopped, talked, laughed, danced, and played pool until the wee hours.
If this is your first visit to this site I recommend reading my Cancer and Pisces compatibility article on this relationship first.