He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.
Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.
If you’re a divorced guy, you don’t need to hear it from me: divorce sucks. Basically every student that attends our weeklong residential program in Los Angeles who’s divorced tells me that it’s the hardest thing he’s ever gone through in his life.
What’s more, guys who have been through a divorce generally aren’t in a huge hurry to get back on the horse and start dating again. At least as much as someone who has never been there can.
My mom, who adores my kids second only to their parents.
As my children and their needs as people grow, it seems that our circle of people shrinks – and the pressures of being a single mother mount.
Having dated a divorced guy, I can speak from experience of what to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.
DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.
However, a divorced man can’t just erase his ex-wife from his memory and his life.
Eighteen months after my marriage ended, I jumped into a heady, sexually intense year-long relationship with a fellow writer and parent who was 20 years older than I was.
In hindsight, it was no surprise it ended — his kids were grown, mine were tiny, our lives were at different points.
Just because a man is divorced doesn’t mean that you should rule him out completely. Dating a man who is going through a divorce or is newly divorced can be a tough challenge.
However, there are some things you’ll want to know before dating a divorced man to ensure this is a journey you want to go on. Before getting into a serious commitment with a divorced man, be sure you know where the divorce really stands. In most relationships when you break up with someone, you can easily move them out of your lives.
By putting more pressure on him, I pushed him away.