Their universe is usually small, with statements that have too many "should" and "must." They have idealist views, and a need to impose and make others believe that their universe is the better one. That is why they use other people to fill up the inner gap. They lack the ability to feel confidence internally, and instead find a sensation of superiority by seeing others as inferior. They usually have points of views that are fixated and most of the time not valid, since they are usually the type who only reads the cover of the magazine to look smart, and then is opinioned about it. There is a part of them that they don't like and are trying hard to cover.
They will usually dislike you if you don't buy into that. They usually have a lot of friends, but just superficially. They may have found ways to attract a lot of people into their world, but usually the ones who feed into their arrogance. They may also harshly criticize others who don't buy into their views. They are unable to have long lasting relationships. While many people have had pasts that are not perfect, nor close to it, self-centered people are lacking the skills to address these issues in a productive way. At the end, remember that you can have compassion for someone, but at the same time hold them accountable for their actions and have clear self-boundaries.
While normal levels of self-love, self-value and self-confidence are important for people to function well, there is a line between these characteristics and being a little too self-absorbed, arrogant or just plain narcissistic.
For example, some people are always trying to make others believe that their own world is the better one, while others will always cut you short and try to air their grievances when you wish to air yours.
After the honeymoon period, where I was just astounded that I was having sex, our relationship became a matter of constant fighting, jealousy, guilt trips and having to justify myself on an almost daily basis.
Almost every fight we ever had would escalate from disagreeing over what to rent at Blockbuster to threats of breaking up with me… I allowed her walk all over me because I was willing to put up with this.
Most of you have probably had an encounter with a self-centered person.
The first piece of advice for dealing with such people is to try to stay away from them, or to have clear boundaries with them since they may become energy vampires.
Arrogant people take too many measures to protect their self-image. They devalue others and put them at a lesser position. Learn to observe and evaluate their behavior objectively. Have compassion for them since they usually have had a past that created a wrong type of self-protection mode for them.
Just as soon as you think you have a group of people pegged, that’s when someone will flip it on you.
It’s no secret that Jamaican men don’t have the best reputation when it comes to dating.
This was significant because my ex hated RPGs – she thought they were the stupidest things ever and couldn’t imagine anyone she dated wanting to play them.
She also didn’t care for them because it meant I was spending time with my friends and not with her (warning sign #2) – but this time she relented and .
So if you’re thinking about dating a Jamaican man or you just want to be entertained for the next couple of slides, let’s dive in.